A long time ago you were a small child born with hopes and spirit dreams.  You wanted to love and be loved, to laugh, to play, and to make a difference in the world.  bigstock-Child-sitting-on-a-rooftop-and-12160391-300x209The family that you were adopted or born into shared their structure, their way of understanding life, which might have been very different from what you understood or wanted.  These people developed ways of thinking and being in response to the experiences of their lives.  Since they didn’t remember who they really were- the beloved children of Great Spirit- they could only teach you how to survive in a difficult world.  As you became your own individual you began to believe you were not like everyone else.  But the truth is there is no one who really believes they fit in, belong, and that they are ok just like they are.

In the end no one fits in because there is no truth to the teachings of the world or the beliefs of world mind.  It is all an illusion of thought.  World mind is full of lots of notions and ideas, most of which make money for someone.  But making money is not a Truth…it is an experience of illusion.  The world mind’s purpose is not to help you be who you are or to live as who you really are it is to gain possessions, position, and power.

beautiful-birds-child-dreams-hope-favim-com-173804Spirit Truth is- you are the beloved children of Great Spirit Mother, Father, and Weaver. This means you have a great light within you, you have a great love within you, the potential for great joy within you, and the energy of peace within you.  You cannot earn this.  You cannot create it.  It just exists.  It exists as your Tarai (spirit) mind- the mind that remembers who you truly are.  Coming to rely upon the Tarai mind you will be able to know Great Spirit’s will for you and your life.  You will be able to remember why you came into this world.

The seeds (thoughts) we are sowing in our mind, into the ground of our spirit beingness, determine our experience of this world. 

No one can make us feel anything we do not decide to feel.  Over and over again individuals have demonstrated that they can hold to Great Spirit’s truth even if their body is tortured and killed.  No one can make us commit an evil act…it is we who choose to be noble and virtuous or angry, revengeful, and full of pain.

enemies-friends-life-lover-quote-Favim.com-136462_largeWhen we find someone and declare them to be the enemy and feel they must be destroyed somehow in order for us to be safe we  are outside of Spirit Truth.  How can enemy consciousness be avoided?  It begins by understanding that we are in enemy consciousness with ourselves.  There is a part of us that we hate.  these are the voices that tell us that we are stupid or that there is something wrong with us.  This is our personal demon.  We all have one.   It was created by the words and actions of people when we were small, or the words of people who were trying to educate us and teach us how things really are.  Much of our lives these self-hate voices are prodding, poking, demanding, and scolding in one way or another.  When this happens many of us engage in arguments with ourselves.  We may be constantly defending against our self-hate voices.  But all the arguing, processing, and transformational exercises only tend to make the self-hate voice more real, stronger, and less easily defended against.  The harder we try the more likely we are to lose.   It’s like a court battle with a corrupt attorney.

Most of our suffering is caused by the voices in our head.

When the voices get control because we have made a mistake of some kind we begin by feeling guilty, then ashamed, then horrified, and once those three things happen we usually make one of two choices- anger or depression.  voices_in_my_head_by_onehundredpercentme-d5i02dnAnger is when we make our mistake the fault of someone else –he made me so angry.  Depression is when we blame ourselves- I should have known better.  Neither of these two options will help us move from suffering to joy, peace, or love.

What if there was an alternative?    It is Laughter….laughter will set you free!

Laughter is the key that will set us free. Some people say that love is the key to set us free from suffering- but actually that rarely works.  How many times have you been able to feel love and still suffer from jealousy, anger, and upset?  However it’s impossible to be angry, upset, or suffering and laugh at the same time.

What turns off anger, depression, and the horror of having made a mistake is LAUGHTER. HappinessHowever this will not work as long as we are determined to believe that everything we say, think, feel, and do is deadly serious.  Begin to let go of taking life too seriously.   This is only possible if we truly understand that in life there will always be suffering but it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with us.  Mistakes are inevitable but they don’t mean there is something wrong with us!  How long we suffer is a choice.  Cultivate laughter, cultivate the ability to let go and Play.  Play means that when we are finished we have nothing to show for it other than a good mood.

In love and honor do I hold myself,
and in this way shall I cherish all things of the earth,
for we are one and the same.

 The Angel of Wisdom is my guide
and I am directed in all my choices.
And from these decisions do I learn more of the ways
of Wisdom that I might harvest the fruits
of all my endeavors in the season of their ripeness.

 The whole of humanity is my family,
and I offer the fullness of my heart to all.

dc-224 Unto the ends of eternity shall I travel
and forever will I return to share with my people.

 May I choose all my actions deliberately,
and may they flow from the core of my highest truth,
that I might serve with all the fire and passion of my love.

 May I be a catalyst of healing and transformation
for those who would seek to mend their wounds
and grow beyond their boundaries.

I would be a beacon of light upon their way,
blazing forth a path of illumination
through the darkness that enshrouds them.

 May I be a shield for those who seek shelter
from the onslaughts of oppression,
and a sword for those who would
cut the ropes of their own bondage.

 May I laugh in the face of all things
that it might be an instrument of freedom and liberation,
breaking the shackles of fear
by the very power of its resonance.

 May the wings of my heart be strong
so as to carry the weight of the world in its flight to the sun.

 For I have come to prepare the way
so that others may follow,
until all rivers have reached the great sea
and all beings are free from suffering.

Equanimity Does Not Mean Equality

Equanimity is not about being equal. It is about remaining calm in the midst of difficulty. Life is not fair. It’s not equal everywhere or all of the time. There is always going to be more of a reward for one individual while others just as worthy remain unnoticed and unappreciated. parental-Control Often in life we strive to be safe, comfortable, and have a plan for the future.  So what  really belongs to you?  What do you have power over?

Not your body. It’s going to do what it’s going to do and eventually it will grow old, get sick, and die.  We surround ourselves with possessions but they could all disappear one day or vanish in a moment  from war, weather, or an enemy’s malice. People around the world often discover this to their great horror and fear. Refugees, even those with the highest education, come to our country and are relegated to low-skilled, low-paid positions. They have lost all they built and counted upon. It happens every day all around the world.

What cannot be taken away, lost, or stolen is our self-respect, courage, determination, kindness, or compassion.  In other words who you truly are inside and how you choose to perceive the world around you.  This is equanimity.

Equanimity begins with the age old rule from many lands-  GoldenRuledecide to give away to others only that which you wish to receive yourself from others.
For thousands of years this phrase has endured yet people have ignored it in favor of returning in kind, or making a peremptory strike from fear that someone has evil intention. Is someone angry with you? It is common to say- “I think I’ll return the favor.”
Did someone gossip about you? It is common to say- “What a bitch/bastard, how dare they speak of me in that fashion…just you wait!”  When we return tit for tat we are holding another as a prisoner in our mind and we are in that prison with them!

Life is likely to surprise you- it is never safe, comfortable, and secure.refugees But you can remain in equanimity by establishing and maintaining an attitude of compassion. If you respect others, you are respecting yourself. This is compassion.  If you betray and hate others you are hating and betraying yourself.  This is the normal world-mind response.

Are you preventing yourself from moving into a celebration of the moment?  Usually people’s lives stop after the bad moments. When life stops so does growth in love, joy, and the possibility for transformation.  Many say, “I am going to feel this way for the rest of my life”?  Some will withdraw and become unavailable because something bad happened at one time. That is a death sentence.

With equanimity it is possible to continue to have a cheerful life, a meaningful life, even though bad things still happen. But there is no reason to not be loving and kind despite challenges and pain.  Whatever happened- That was then. This is now.
Right now there is an infinite possibility of experiences.

Remember, when things go wrong, when mistakes happen, and loss befalls you- forgiveness is the key to wholeness and peace. Remember that we are on a journey to become progressively less stupid. So do not make forgiveness or atonement a punishment or attempt to teach yourself a lesson.  Forgiveness is the restoration of love, joy, and harmony.

If someone has made us angry, then we could pray for them.  If we return anger and pain then we become just like the ones we despise. forgive1Create acts of love instead- and not necessarily for the one who has offended you- but focus, intentional acts of loving kindness restores you to wholeness. There are unending possibilities for kindness. Compassion should compel us into action. We have feelings so we can act upon them.  When those feelings are likely to create pain and suffering for ourselves or others- we can transform the contemplated action into a compassionate action instead.

Is life perfect? No. It is temporary, changing, and above all fleeting.  So-stop trying to be perfect and just do the best you can. There are lots of opportunities to be awaken in compassionate  service.- find one of them.  Compassion is not about what “I-Will-Not-Do”…” but rather it calls for us to decide  “What-I-Will-Do.”  Equanimity is our opportunity to relax into life instead of stressing out about life.