May All of My Decisions Result In Wisdom
In order to grow wise we must have experiences. If we do not allow ourselves to engage in events we will never grow wise. Some of our experiences may be entertaining, fulfilling, educational, and loving as well as difficult or challenging.
In order to grow wise we must learn to accept and celebrate our mistakes as well as our successes and opportunities. However in our society of grades, evaluations, tests, and comparisons most of us have developed a horror of mistakes. We wish to be 100% correct 100% of the time. Of course, this will not happen. When we are incorrect/ make a mistake we often choose one of several options- we pretend the event did not occur and attempt to forget it (denial) or we admit we made a mistake and suffer guilt over it for various amounts of time.
Sometimes we believe that Spiritual Wisdom means we will know all of the answers to all of life’s questions. We might believe that if we are wise we will never choose inappropriately and that everything we do will succeed; especially if we have the “right” spiritual approach to life.
How Can The Decisions Be Made In Wisdom?
In order to learn to make decisions in wisdom we need to develop a “pause button” within our thoughts. In order to install a “pause button” we must be in awareness of our thoughts.
Meditation is the time honored practice to actually understand what we are thinking. Humans do not come hardwired with a pause button. This is why patience is considered a virtue.
“I will pause before I act. I will pause before I speak.”
A three second pause before we take breath to speak can make all the difference to what happens next.
Remember- if we keep thinking a certain thought, sooner or later it will pop out of our mouth. As long as we keep telling the same old story, as long as we keep nurturing the same worn out thoughts sooner or later we will act on them.
When making decisions we consider other people’s needs as well as our own.
Learn how to work with the energy of change: Change your mind, change your thoughts, change your stories, change your energies and change your life. This is wisdom.
When we make a mistake, change the plan. Repeating the same action over and over expecting a different result is unwise.
To change a mistake take ownership of what is said, take ownership of what has been done and take ownership of the need to respect the emotional needs of those around you.
Learning From Our Mistakes.
Develop discernment. There is a difference between perceived good and actual good. With perceived good it appears there should be positive outcome and instead there is suffering. Actual good causes positive results and achievements for everyone involved.
When trying to decide rather or not we should try something again ask-
“How much did I suffer the last time I tried this?”
Some energies will be painful until we have practiced enough to make the activity easy and natural. We might what to try yet again…but maybe not.
Most of us are Helpers. We might even have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for others. When we have a desire to assist others to be happy, to succeed, to bring about changes- it will be important to think, pause, and imagine what the result will be for that person. Imagine all of the consequences of this decision in the life of that person. Then ask if they wish for help instead of assuming that of course they need our help!
When we are Helpers it’s important to learn the wise application of one word- NO
We can learn when to offer help and when to leave others to learn from their mistakes. We can learn when to take refuge because we have no emotional or physical resources left to offer to those requiring help.
Wisdom is cultivated through decision making.
There is no one right answer to all of the various decisions to be made within life. No is not always the appropriate answer. Yes is not always the appropriate answer. We must learn to be imaginative, inventive, and insightful cultivating wisdom and skillful means throughout our lives.