About Mother Dawe

Mother Dawe is the founder of The Society of the Compassionate Heart and lives at Sacred Mountain Monastery in the mountains south of Idaho City, Idaho.

I Am

I am is the most important energy in the life of a human being.  This is because everything is about us.  Humans always think in terms of I am.  “I am happy.  I am sad.  I am angry.  I am compassionate.”

b550a71c4cc07c6432bd0f76decd7b56--positive-feelings-positive-lifeI am consists of two parts: the Great and the little.  Great Self, True Self, Higher Self is the I am with a period.  For little self, personality self, incarnate self the words I am is the beginning of a sentence.  Humans explain our actions, our thoughts, and our intentions through the words I am.

Spirituality, we are informed, is to arrive at the totality of the Great I am.  Imagine a circle.  This circle is Divine Spirit, the All Is One energy.  It encompasses the infinite potential of all that has been and all that will be, or might be.

However, as duality arises from mind the circle begins to be crossed by lines.  We do this in religion as we divide the great circle into conceptual pictures.  The lines could be expressed as- Father, Son, and Holy Spirit; Divine Mother, Father, and Weaver; Earth, Sky, and Spirits.  There are numerous ways the circle becomes a picture.  And then the picture becomes the path, the way, the truth.  We can’t help thinking and attempting to understand but we start making trouble when our picture becomes The Picture.

As humans we are always busy trying to understand ourselves, others, and the universe.  As spirits we discover the Great Circle that is the I am; the Divine Avatar connection, Buddha Self, Christ Consciousness Self, True Self, Higher Self, etc.  Then, because we are physical beings, we begin to define ourselves.  We have spent lifetimes creating patterns and habits of thinking and acting that are lines in the circle of our Great I am.  After a while, we have a very complex picture within the Great Circle of Life.

Most of us assume that the path of spirit is about changing ourselves to fit into the “spiritual” role defined by whatever set of teachings we are engaged in.  Sometimes it’s about finding the right path so we can be saved, healed, or magicked into a perfect being.  We have forgotten the Great I am and focus only on the messy lines we have scribbled within the circle.

To bring our attention back to the wholeness of our circle it’s necessary to accept all the lines within the circle, even the scribbles.  Everyone has things we don’t like about ourselves.  But, we are the artist who drew the picture.  Some of it we created as a child.  Part was created by a scared or angry adolescent.  Other parts seemed to be there when we were born.  What if we simply redraw the lines, or add new ones, so all the parts fit together into a mandala of beauty? cf678298ff62e73909fc118e228cc284--lotus-mandala-tattoo-lotus-flower-tattoos

The place to start with our Great I am mandala is to stop thinking we are broken. It helps to focus on how we already are loving, generous, kind, and compassionate.  Sometimes we will discover that we are harder than we thought; softer than we thought, more fragile than we thought, smaller or bigger than we thought.  Those are just lines in the Great I am Circle.  We can learn to say, “I am that.”

Once we add lines or restructure lines within the Great Circle we have wholeness.  We will have structural, spiritual, moral, and ethical integrity.  What if we paint the mandala of our life in all the colors of creation?  Maybe we will end up being who we were always meant to be.

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Spirit’s Job

To be a worker of the light a preparer of the way it’s helpful to focus on one of three energies:  love, joy, or peace.  Pick the one you think will be easiest or the most desirable in your life.   In order to prepare the way for one of these energies, you need all of them, but pick just one for identification purposes.  I am a being of love.  I am a being of joy.  I am a being of peace.

main-qimg-3bd3f2b1bb3591151590a059ca5f4305Think of it as a job description.  Once you understand what the job is, you must learn how to demonstrate it successfully.  Wherever you find yourself daily in life is the place for practice.

Create a symbol to remind you of this energy – wear it, associate a color with it, write it on your mirror, post it on the refrigerator, or write it on the dashboard.  Do whatever it takes to remind yourself of this energy that is your special job as a light being.

As with a job description, write down the activities, thoughts, behaviors, gifts, and ways to express a demonstration of this energy.  List the job’s goals.  List specific activities and details.  E.g., to bring joy, smile; to bring love, show compassion and bring comfort; to bring peace, work with interfaith activities, such as the Habitat for Humanity.

Don’t choose joy if you think of yourself as shy and retiring or need lots of approval.  If you are too fond of another’s approval, you won’t be able to demonstrate love, either.  You must be bold to demonstrate love.  It requires courage to forget about you.  Peace is about bringing people of differing ideas together for the greater good, such as sharing food with those who are hungry.  By the way, mark your calendars for each Sunday to remember to bring food donations for the food bank.  Give away is part of preparing the way for peace.  But if you are too busy or feel unworthy, peace is not for you.

Uh, oh.  Looks like you can either learn this job as a way of life or be guilty, angry, frustrated, and disappointed.

Add I am a preparer of the way, a light being of ______ and I accept this truth into my life now to your daily prayers or meditation practices.hqdefault

You are going to have barriers.  So what?  When you really want something, you find a way to get it.  You manage to create whatever is important to you in your life.  Mostly demonstrating these energies costs nothing.  Smiles are free.  Compassion is free.

However, being a preparer of the way will cost you your pride.  Fear prevents you from being a being of light, from being a spiritual master.  Get over yourself.  Little self is of no value.  Eternal life is freedom from all the little deaths created by fear.

Notice, I am not giving you a choice to not be a preparer of the way.  Which if the three energies will you choose?  If you need to, “fake it till you make it.”  Eventually it will become real.  Be bold!

A Heart-Centered Life

There are three important energies that must be expressed in order to live a heart-centered life.  They are difficult energies because they do not necessarily bring success in the world plan.

Living-a-heart-centered-lifeKnow, Understand, and Manifest a Heart Centered Life Each Day

To manifest a Heart Centered Life we consider every action, thought, or, especially, any word that comes out of our mouths we need to be asking, How is this promoting love, joy, or peace?  If is it not promoting these energies, what we are about to do, think, or say, is not from our heart center.  If what we think, say, or do won’t add positive energy then, practice silence instead.  Pointing out the faults of another does not promote love, joy, or peace.

Don’t think in terms of what others need to do in order for us to have love, joy, or peace.  What are we going to do?  We are not going to change another.  It is not Heart Centered to confront misbehavior and demand change.  Focus instead on forgiveness:  I do not remember that you have ever offended me.   If we are not ready for Divine Forgiveness then start with compassion for self and then find compassion for the another.  We don’t have to “put up with” misbehavior.  We recognize it and create positive dialogue around the possibility of change.  Heart Centered is finding more love, joy, and peace in our lives by creating beauty, hope, and wholeness.

When we share our favorite hell stories with our friends it does not help us to be heart-centered or healed.  Recognize that we have pain around an experience or a conversation and then bring compassion to that pain.  Practice the four steps of healing- acceptance, non-harm expression, release, and refocus.  Then speak, act, and think in a heart-centered way.

When we fail, and we will fail, guilt will not help us.  Guilt is just the warning beep that we have gone against our heart-center.  Recognize it, have compassion, and try again.  Don’t wallow in guilt.  Notice we have made a mistake and get on with our lives.

Consider Others Before Yourself

compassion_3224251965_1200x627To consider others before ourselves is not an invitation to martyrdom.  It’s an invitation to contribute to the lives of those around us and to make a difference in the world in which we live.  It’s the call of our soul as a human being.  However, if we override that call and make it all about us, we suffer and others suffer.

We knew when we came here what it would be like.  Our ancestor council of soul shared memories with us and hoped that we could be the one to make a difference in our karmic patterns.  But after we were born, instead of remembering selflessness, we learned to practice self-centeredness.  I need; I want; I must have.  And someone is preventing me from having it.  So we go to enemy consciousness.

We are here to make a contribution to the world.  The so-called peace talks demonstrate how people are all about getting and making demands.  True peace talks would be about what there is to share.  Often marriage counseling is simply about complaining.  He doesn’t give me what I need to be happy. / She doesn’t try to understand me.  Then the process moves into negotiations.  That is enemy consciousness.  It won’t work.  The other person would have already given what you say you need if he or she had been able to do so.

The point is to get rid of little self and make a contribution.  Think of others before we think of ourselves, be tender with self, and be tender with others.   A big part of us doesn’t want to do this.  We may start and fail miserably, but like a rock over which a bird flies, brushing it with its wings, until it is worn away- so too thinking of others in tenderness will wear away the little selfish being until only the Great Being remains.

Be Willing to Contribute without Receiving Thanks

There are two parts to this energy:

  1. There are no rewards.
  2. We are going to make mistakes.

mother_stars_sTrue humility is to recognize when we are wrong, apologize, and make atonement.  Recognize that we caused pain to another and do atonement whether they accept it or not.  The battle of light and dark goes on inside us every day.  If we are not the light, then we are causing pain and suffering.  If we are not heart-centered we are causing harm.  Do atonement.

Practice until what we offer needs no reward.  We give, let go and not concern ourselves with what others do with our gift.  The energy comes back anyway so practice having no expectation of how it will return.

It’s not about feeling good; it’s about being good.  And it’s about doing it in difficult circumstances.  Plant the seeds of eternity where they are needed.  If we have trouble with this, we need refuge and sanctuary.  Sow the seeds of eternity where they are needed.  Our purpose isn’t to save the world but to be a good person in the world.  To do that we must take sanctuary in a beautiful place.  We let nature heal us.   Sanctuary can be inside in a temple or sacred building.  Where is Divine Spirit?  Look in the mirror.  It’s you, wherever you are as long as you live from spirit heart.

Refuge is for times of darkness.  Go to the temple of your heart and fling yourself like a little child into the arms of your Spiritual Master.  Be held.  Then go back out to the world.  Refuge is instant healing.   Daily, or at least weekly, go to a space of beauty and renew your soul.  The heart-centered life is hard, but possible, one thought, one day at a time.

Why Be Monastic?

Time and again people ask us, “Why on earth would you want to be monastic?  Are you trying to escape from the world, or what?”

481567479-56a0c46d3df78cafdaa4d775Becoming a monk or a nun is a vocation.  It’s a calling from Divine Spirit to lead a life of prayer, immersion in the dharma teachings of a spiritual pathway, and an opportunity to live in community.  Living in a monastic community means living with people who may, or may not, be your friends, which then creates an opportunity for acceptance and compassion. Monastic community creates a society dedicated to the common purpose of thinking, praying, meditating, working, and living for the benefit of all beings.

True Prayer and meditation is the ability to harness Divine Mind (the One Mind) to declare and know healing, peace, light, harmony, generosity, and compassion for the needs of others.  The monastic life requires hours of focused attention to being awake in the moment.  When we are awake in the moment it’s possible to choose compassion, kindness, generosity, fearlessness, and hope.

suffering.jpg.e0ba387663cfd689d3b50b560c59a3e0Every day billions of humans on this planet are THINKING!  They are thinking into the One Mind of infinite possibilities.  And from all that thinking decisions are made.  It doesn’t take a genius to figure out what the majority of humans are putting into the One Mind, and into action.  We see it in the news, on Facebook, and in the public marketplace.  Anger, hatred, contempt, despair, hopelessness, violence, and domination are the ugly manifestations millions of humans are constantly projecting into One Mind, no wonder the spiritual teachers tell us this world is hell.  No wonder so many are suffering.

Yes, there are good people, kind people, and generous people everywhere!  But even good people are often filled with anger and despair at the state of the world.  Stress and anxiety has been determined to be the number one disease of the 21st century.

Monastics train, daily, hourly, to send thoughts of loving kindness, peace, healing, and compassion into the One Mind generator of action.  It is a life dedicated to creating light in the darkness of world mind.  Throughout the ages humble souls, dedicated souls, sensitive and generous souls have given up the things of the world (money, possessions, power, prestige, family, and relationships) to devote their lives to prayer, meditation, and service to those in need.

Monks and nuns do not run away from the world.  They chose to renounce ordinary life and enter a world of devotion, to become a Bodhisattva in hell.  Perhaps we should honor their courage, their sacrifice, their unremitting determination to free all beings from suffering!

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Spiritual Seeking

Youll-be-thatDuring the last one hundred years there has arisen a longing to understand the nature of reality, genuine humanity, and the true nature of the Divine, often referred to as God.  Spiritual seekers have arisen across cultural, ethnic, and educational backgrounds searching for an answer to the “Great Matter of Life and Death.”

For thousands of years humans had mostly been content accepting definitions and understandings of the Great Matter through organized religions.  A spiritual seeker investigated Islam, Judaism, Christianity, Hindu, Buddhist, Taoist, or maybe Shinto religious texts and teachings discovering which faith group seemed to resonate within their soul and became a member of one of the various sects associated with that belief system.

But, as people lost confidence in organized religion there arose a movement toward a new understanding of who we are, why we are here, and where we are going.  There developed a demand for innovative and even firsthand experiences of the Divine.  The most important questions a spiritual seeker asks has to do with our relationship with the Divine Spirit within.  We ask and answer many, many times, discovering greater depths with each exploration.

Who am I and what is my purpose for being?

What does it mean to be awake?

What legacy will I leave?

Am I connected to Mother Nature and all life?

What and who inspires me?

How can I serve life and spirit?

How might I find peace and live it?

Who benefits from my life?

How can I cultivate compassion, generosity, and a loving heart?

27C6BC6800000578-3046897-The_number_of_schoolgirls_at_risk_of_emotional_problems_has_rise-a-4_1429525696475Unfortunately, with modernistic thinking, spirituality has gotten mixed up with emotional needs, and self-fulfillment.  So, people decide to judge a sangha or spiritual circle on the basis of how good one feels belonging to the group.  So the questions tend to take this form:

Are these people welcoming and non-judgmental?

Are my opinions valued and implemented?

Am I feeling happy and uplifted?

Am I loved unconditionally?

Am I being healed from my childhood traumas?

Can I trust these people in an intimate relationship?

Do I feel respected?

All of these are excellent questions, and yet…is getting our personal needs met the responsibility of a spiritual teacher or a sangha?  The members of a spiritual learning circle are unlikely to be perfectly loving, kind, welcoming, and totally focused on us and our needs at all times.

When we say we don’t want to be judged- does that mean we can’t accept correction, suggestions, or teachings that don’t make us feel good?

When we say we want our opinions to be heard and implemented- does it mean we expect others to do what we want regardless of whether we know what we’re talking about or if our judgment is helpful or in line with the vision held by that group?

Isn’t it a personal responsibility to learn how to be happy and uplifted regardless of how others treat us or what is said in a dharma talk?

If we are loved unconditionally- does that translate to “don’t tell me how my behavior affects you, because it will make me feel bad about myself?”

Trust happens when we share a vision, a dream, a work, a life.  Trust isn’t something people have to earn from us, it’s a gift of accepting diversity of thought and focusing beyond our childlike emotional neediness.  And respect comes from self-acceptance. It’s not a permission given by someone outside of ourselves.

dark-light-wallpaper-005When we find a true teacher or spiritual circle we will discover that the things we thought should be provided for us are the very energies we need to make available for self and others.  Opening the door to our Divine Nature will shatter our delusions of desire, need, and self-indulgence.  We will stand before the mirror of Truth and begin to understand that we are born to contribute.  We will discover that we have been given a precious human life to imagine and create a world without war, hunger, and greed.  Ego-naked before Divine Source we are challenged to be greater than we ever thought possible, to forget the little self, and become a burning light in the darkness of hell.

Practical Duality or Delusional Duality

dualityWhen we incarnate we enter a world of duality, an experience of separation.  In a realistic sense this is important.  We are able to recognize objects, people, and animals as distinct from ourselves, we interact with our environment and the entities and objects within that environment.  We learn that fire burns, animals can bite, and rocks are hard.  We also learn more subjective identifications such as- good and bad; right and wrong; happy and sad; beautiful and ugly.  Duality is the existence of pairs of opposites.

In metaphysical spirituality, we are taught to strive for oneness with all things, to let go of separation, and understand that we are interdependence upon one another.  Teachings often speak of the importance of emptiness, that thoughts and things do not have independent origin but arise from other things.  Sometimes we are told that this world is a delusion and that nothing that happens here matters because we are destined for heaven, nirvana, enlightenment, and bliss.

Left or right on handsDuality is both illusion and reality.  How can that be?  Well, let’s take a pragmatic approach.  In life on a day to day basis it’s important to know left from right, up from down, forward from back, hot from cold, and open from closed.  If we can’t tell left from right or up from down we have a cognitive disability.  If we can’t distinguish between hot and cold we can injury ourselves physically.  It’s also helpful to know if a door is open or closed.  So, duality in this respect, has a utilitarian functionality.  Even fully enlightened beings still need to maneuver in daily life, just like everyone else.

Then, there is the duality of Delusion.  This can be extremely subtle and is the true cause of suffering.  Great Spiritual Teachers have told us that suffering has a cause and discovering that cause allows us to find the path to liberation from suffering.  The duality of delusion arises from opinion, beliefs, attitudes, and judgments.  For example:  good and evil, right and wrong, neat and messy, beautiful and ugly, whole and broken, or happy and sad, man and woman, us and them, etc.

'Cleanliness is next to 'clean room' in the dictionary.  Look it up.'I am not saying we shouldn’t have opinions, beliefs, attitudes, and discernments.  What we want to examine is how some of these things lead to suffering for ourselves and contribute to the suffering of others.  Let’s start with neat and messy.  As a child, or as a parent, we were probably exposed to this concept.  If the parent has a standard of neatness that has to be met…or else.  What happens?  Angry words.  Tears.  Resentment.  Feelings of not being loved.  All of these are a cause of suffering.

In relationships, these delusional dualities or opinions can cause tremendous suffering.  Example:  A young married couple with two small children appear to be very happy together.  The husband works hard and long hours so that his beloved can stay home and care for their two young children, keep the hearth, and make a home just like in his childhood.  The wife is happy to be with the children and loves her home.  She’s grateful that her dream is possible and she doesn’t have to leave her children with strangers.  Then, one day both children become ill, and she also becomes ill.  She isn’t getting any sleep, can’t eat, and needs help from her husband.  He becomes angry and storms out of the house and doesn’t come back for a few days.  This is the duality called wife and husband.  Both those words have a world of idea, belief, and story behind them.  Our ideas work as long as other factors don’t come into play.  But other factors have a way of showing up.  The result?  Suffering!

One more example:  I work hard for a living, seeing people, problem solving, organizing events, and serving my spiritual community.  Therefore, my delusional belief is to come home to a neat and tidy house.  That is a neat and tidy house according to my programmed, conditioned expectations.  Sometimes that just doesn’t happen.  Irritation, self-pity, and entitlement creep into my thoughts.  If I share those thoughts everyone is challenged.  If I don’t then only I am challenged.  But this is suffering and for what?  Because things were not the way my judgement-self thought they should be?

wallpaper-2450469Liberation from suffering comes when I am able to see through the delusion of what should be and allow myself to be OK with what is at the moment.  Watching thoughts, we begin to see our aversion and attractions: I like it, I don’t like it; It should be, it shouldn’t be, and on, and on, and on.

But we do not need to decide for the whole world what beauty is, what happiness is, what love is, what the correct dress or behavior is, or any other ideal that is only a matter of opinion or cultural conditioning.  Let us strive to recognize our causes of suffering and let go of the wheel of fire. Liberation awaits those willing to release attachment to delusional duality!

 

In Honor We Hold Ourselves

868be8e27122c1683a068bd950546df1As we look at this statement we understand that it’s about holding all life as sacred.  We love the earth, the creatures, and being outside in nature.  We see the value in preserving life on earth and we try to honor others who are think differently than we do.  Perhaps the challenge of this statement is accepting and honoring ourselves as who we are.

“The primary task of spirit is in discovering and knowing the value in yourselves.”
 Maha Amma Ilowan

Within earth energy, all things serve a purpose.  Think about mosquitoes, while they may not be valuable to you, they are valuable to birds, frogs, lizards, snakes, and other insects. All life is intertwined.  Everything has a place and a purpose. Everyone matters.  We can observe the pain and suffering when certain people or entities are singled out as unimportant.  It’s easy to want to get rid of something or someone who seems threatening to us.  But that is not the way of Compassion.

When we look at a tapestry or even a piece of cloth we can see that every thread has a purpose.  When some threads are missing it creates a hole in the fabric. We all have a purpose for being here and we don’t necessarily have to know our purpose for our contribution to be relevant to others.  Bees, birds, cats, dogs, and multiple other animals don’t know their purpose but their contribution is relevant.

Beings always matter.  When someone dies, they leave a space – a hole in the tapestry of the lives of friends and family, but they may also leave a hole in the lives of people they didn’t even know.  Your life, as you are, who you are, where you are, has value no matter what your life looks like. There is a perception in our culture that one person’s worth and contribution matters more than another’s. This is capitalism – where one’s value is measured by productivity, possessions, power, and prestige.  In capitalistic machine-mind consciousness, a machine can be created to do a human task.  The machine replaces the human or animal who is then cast out and left to starve.

“Life is a privilege that has been gifted to you as a human being in order to create love, compassion, generosity, and kindness.
Maha Amma Ilowan

Consuming KidsWe are taught to be good consumers and the more we consume, the more value we have. We are taught that if we have more things, we will be happier.  If we believe those lies a problem arises which creates a tendency to compare and contrast what we have – and don’t have – with what other people have and don’t have. We might think that what others have is better than what we have. Sometimes we even want to change places with another because that person seems to be and have everything we want. There is a line in a song that says “Desire is the fire of creation.” But desire can also be the suffering of grasping the fiery wheel of samsara.

Consider: “Is a squirrel greater than a tree? In size, yes. Yet, each holds a fullness of being and purpose that is neither greater than, nor less than. A tree and a squirrel understand what they are and each finds a way to share their gifts.”

Reflect: “You have a responsibility to the earth, family, community, and life itself.  Be the greatest YOU that you are capable of being.  Share your skills and talents. You are here to use yourself up in service to Life.”

Contemplate: Some people think that having a role is binding, a limitation, but to have a role means we are of value to ourselves.  If we know our role we can be a gift to those around us and contribute to the whole. Example: Being a mother or father to small children is a role.  If we refuse to offer that role and make it a special gift, we create pain and suffering that can last for generations. To give to others is not only important to life, but to our soul.”

In this culture, we think that being busy, over-obligated and stressed brings value to our lives.  But if we serve only our task list, constantly run errands, keep so busy that we don’t have any time, or live life according to the dictates of electronic devices, how is this creating value?”

DNA-Sequencing-Is-As-Beneficial-And-HelpfulTruly we are ONE essence with all other life. Science tells us that we share 95% of the same DNA with all other life forms. This means we belong together. Our spirit’s purpose is to create a life to share with Life.  We must learn to celebrate interdependence instead of independence.

 

“We were brought here to give, love, and share. This is all that really matters.”