Laughter Can Set Us Free

6c9f074d8c30aa1e02b4cc3acf9e41e5A long time ago you were a small child born with hopes and dreams.  You wanted to love and be loved, to laugh, to play, and to make a difference in the world.  The family that you were adopted or born into shared with you a structure and a way of understanding life, which was probably very different than what you understood as a pre-born spirit.  Your family had ways of thinking and being that were a response to what they had experienced in their lives.  They probably wished to save you from the suffering of the world- and so they taught you many things they believed to be useful.  Then, you became your own person.  Maybe you even believed you were not like everyone else in your family.  But the truth is no one really believes they fit in, belong, or are OK just like they are.

In the end no one fits in because there is no truth to the world of mind.  It’s all an illusion of thought.  Mind is full of notions and ideas; most of which make money for someone.  But making money is not a Truth…it is an experience of illusion.  The mind’s purpose is not to help you be who you truly are or to live as Divine Spirit.  Its purpose is to evaluate, categorize, judge, compare, and remember.

Earth-4039The Truth of Spirit Mind is: We are beloved children of Divine Spirit. This means we have a great light within us.  We have a great love within us.  The potential for sympathetic joy exists within us, and the energy of peace is also within us.  We cannot earn this.  We cannot create it.  It just exists.  It exists as our Tarai (spirit) mind- the mind that remembers who we truly are.  Coming to rely upon the Spirit Mind we will be able to know and remember why we came into this world.

The part of us that does not know purpose or believe this truth is ordinary thinking mind.  That mind is preoccupied with memories, judgments, rewards, anxiety, need, anger, fear, pain, grief, I want it- I don’t want it, depression and guilt.  In other words the ingredients of suffering.

The seeds (thoughts) we are sowing in our mind, into the ground of our spirit beingness, determine our experience of this world. 

No one can make us feel anything we do not decide to feel.  Over and over again individuals have demonstrated that they can hold to Divine Spirit truth even if their body is tortured and killed.  No one can make us commit an evil act…it is ourselves who choose to be evil or to be noble and virtuous.

When we find someone we are afraid of, or who has insulted us, and declare them to be the cause of our suffering we have created an enemy.  It is usual to feel that the enemy must be destroyed, left behind, or gotten rid of somehow. When we believe others are controlling our experiences we are outside of Spirit Truth.

As spirit’s people we, therefore, speak for right action not against the actions of others.

freedomHow can we avoid enemy consciousness?  It begins by understanding that we are in enemy consciousness within ourselves.  There is often a part of us that we hate.  This is the inner dialogue that tells us we are stupid or that there is must be something wrong with us.  This is our personal demon.  We all have one.  This demon was created by the words of people when we were small, or the words of people who were trying to educate us.

The demon is always a voice from our past.

The demon makes a lot of noise and we feel that we have to respond to that voice. So, we engage in an arguments with ourselves.  We may be constantly defending against this voice.  Arguing with the demon tends to make the self-hate and judgment more real, stronger, and less easily defended against.  It seems like we always lose.  It’s like a court battle with a corrupt attorney.  And this demon voice doesn’t always stay in our head, it might be voiced  by the people around us, those who feel it is their right to share negative opinions with us.

Most suffering is caused by the voices in our head.

When we have made a mistake of some kind we begin to be ashamed, then guilty, then angry.  When we are angry we blame someone.  If we blame others we become victimized.  When we blame ourselves we become depressed or hopeless.  Neither of these two options help us move from suffering into joy, peace, or love.

What if there was a tool?  The tool is Laughter….laughter can set us free!

Happy-ChildrenNow there are some songs that say love is the key- but actually that rarely works.  How many times have we managed be loving but still felt sad or upset inside?  It’s impossible to suffer and laugh at the same time.  However this will not work as long as we are determined to believe that everything we say, think, feel, and do is deadly serious.

We could begin to let go of taking life so seriously.   We could cultivate a sense of humor about ourselves and others.  We could begin to play at life instead of striving to conquer life.  We could discover beauty, grace, and the joy of seeing others happy.  We can find deep joy in service.

Liberation is possible if we truly understand that in life there will be suffering, and that mistakes are inevitable. Let us hope that we will be willing to make mistakes for the remainder of our lives.  If we cannot make mistakes we will have ceased to learn, grow, and expand into the more.  It helps to accept that we will never arrive at a place when everyone will love us, everyone will agree with us, approve of us, or even like us. Even we don’t give ourselves that consistent kind of attention.

Mistakes are inevitable, and suffering will happen- But laughter can set us free!

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Decisions Made In Wisdom

May All of My Decisions Result In Wisdom
In order to grow wise we must have experiences.  If we do not allow ourselves to engage in events we will never grow wise.  Some of our experiences may be entertaining, fulfilling, educational, and loving as well as difficult or challenging.

In order to grow wise we must learn to accept and celebrate our mistakes as well as our successes and opportunities. However in our society of grades, evaluations, tests, and comparisons most of us have developed a horror of mistakes.  We wish to be 100% correct 100% of the time.  Of course, this will not happen.  When we are incorrect/ make a mistake we often choose one of several options- we pretend the event did not occur and attempt to forget it (denial) or we admit we made a mistake and suffer guilt over it for various amounts of time.

Sometimes we believe that Spiritual Wisdom means we will know all of the answers to all of life’s questions.  We might believe that if we are wise we will never choose inappropriately and that everything we do will succeed; especially if we have the “right” spiritual approach to life.

5-Common-Cyber-Security-Incident-Response-Mistakes-You’re-Probably-Still-MakingHow Can The Decisions Be Made In Wisdom?
In order to learn to make decisions in wisdom we need to develop a “pause button” within our thoughts.  In order to install a “pause button” we must be in awareness of our thoughts.

Meditation is the time honored practice to actually understand what we are thinking.  Humans do not come hardwired with a pause button.  This is why patience is considered a virtue.

“I will pause before I act.  I will pause before I speak.”

A three second pause before we take breath to speak can make all the difference to what happens next.

Remember- if we keep thinking a certain thought, sooner or later it will pop out of our mouth.  As long as we keep telling the same old story, as long as we keep nurturing the same worn out thoughts sooner or later we will act on them.

When making decisions we consider other people’s needs as well as our own.

Learn how to work with the energy of change: Change your mind, change your thoughts, change your stories, change your energies and change your life.  This is wisdom.

When we make a mistake, change the plan.  Repeating the same action over and over expecting a different result is unwise.

To change a mistake take ownership of what is said, take ownership of what has been done and take ownership of the need to respect the emotional needs of those around you.

A_meditation-2How can we tell if our decisions are made in wisdom?

RESULTS MATTER!

Wrong decisions result in suffering.
Correct and wise decisions result in outcomes that are good for ourselves and others.

Learning From Our Mistakes.
Develop discernment.  There is a difference between perceived good and actual good.  With perceived good it appears there should be positive outcome and instead there is suffering.  Actual good causes positive results and achievements for everyone involved.

When trying to decide rather or not we should try something again ask-

“How much did I suffer the last time I tried this?”

Some energies will be painful until we have practiced enough to make the activity easy and natural.  We might what to try yet again…but maybe not.

selfish_helping_newsHelping-
Most of us are Helpers.  We might even have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility for others.  When we have a desire to assist others to be happy, to succeed, to bring about changes- it will be important to think, pause, and imagine what the result will be for that person.  Imagine all of the consequences of this decision in the life of that person. Then ask if they wish for help instead of assuming that of course they need our help!

When we are Helpers it’s important to learn the wise application of one word- NO
We can learn when to offer help and when to leave others to learn from their mistakes. We can learn when to take refuge because we have no emotional or physical resources left to offer to those requiring help.

Wisdom is cultivated through decision making.
There is no one right answer to all of the various decisions to be made within life.  No is not always the appropriate answer.  Yes is not always the appropriate answer.  We must learn to be imaginative, inventive, and insightful cultivating wisdom and skillful means throughout our lives.

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Living a Spirit-Centered Life

There are three important energies that must be expressed in order to live a Spirit-centered life.  These are difficult energies because they do not necessarily bring success in the world.  Those energies are a focus on: knowing, understanding, and manifesting– Great Spirit’s will for you each day.

To manifest Great Spirit’s will it is necessary that for every action, thought, or, especially, any words that comes out of our mouths we ask: How is this promoting love, joy, or peace?love_peace_joy Because the only true expressions of Divine Will results in more love, joy, and peace. If it is not promoting one of these truths of Spirit Grace, what we are about to do, think, or say, is not Great Spirit’s plan for us.  If we discover our intention is not in alignment with love, joy, and peace then we can practice silence, meditation, or non-action.

Anger and grief, even pain, are usually the result of thinking in terms of what others need to do in order for us to have love, joy, or peace.  What are we going to do to create love, joy, and peace?  It is not Great Spirit’s way to confront misbehavior. forgiveness Focus instead on forgiveness.  Listen to the voice of Spirit and we will hear Great Mother and Father Say-I do not remember that you have ever offended me.  This is Great Spirit’s forgiveness.  It is the only way we can find more love, joy, and peace when people and things upset us.

Some ideas that prevent us from promoting Great Spirit’s will in our lives are- thinking, obsessing, and retelling our favorite hell/pain/betrayal stories over and over again.  Pointing out the faults of others.  Worrying over imagined “what ifs” does not enhance happiness or peace.  Being upset because others “don’t get it” prevents us from the possibility of tranquility or friendship.  Counting our hardships instead of our blessings prevents us from feeling, knowing, understanding, and expressing our Divine Inheritance of love, joy, and peace.

Because the ability to desire, manifest, and hope for love, joy, and peace already exists inside us- all we need to do is take a quiet time out- a meditation time- and listen for what Great Mother and Father wish for us this day.  Meditation can be as simple as sitting quietly outside listening to the birds, floating peacefully in a pool of water, or sitting on a cushion focused on our breath.  Take a time out and listen- How can I love more today?  How can I practice bringing joy into life today?  How can I let go of my worries and enter into the promise of peace?

When we fail to express our inner divine nature of love, joy, and peace- and we will fail- wallowing in guilt will not help us.  Guilt is just the warning beep that we have gone against Spirit’s purpose; recognize it and try again.  Notice we have made a mistake and get on with trying to know, understand, and manifest love, joy and peace.  This is an obsession worth having!

Consider Others Before Yourself

To consider others before ourselves is not an invitation to martyrdom.  It’s an invitation to contribute to the lives of those around us and to make a difference in the world in whatever way we can.  It is the call of our soul as a human being.

journey-beginsWe knew when we came here what it would be like.  Great Spirit shared stories of what the world was like- and told us they knew that we could make a difference.  But after we were born, instead of holding to selfless intentions, we learned to be self-centeredness.  I need; I want; I must have.  And someone is preventing me from having it.

We have forgotten we are here to make the world a better place.  So-called peace talks often demonstrate how people believe life is about getting what they want and making demands on others to give it to them.  True peace talks would be about what there is to share together in the spirit of loving kindness and generosity.  Even marriage counseling is often about complaining.  He doesn’t give me what I need. / She doesn’t fulfill my needs.  Then the process often moves into negotiations- I’ll give you this if you’ll give me that.  This rarely works.  The other person would have already given what us what we felt we needed if s/he had the ability to share that energy with us.

The point of leading a spirit centered life is to get rid of selfishness and make a contribution.  69b36b5e82167110faa898868d98c1c7This takes time, maybe as much time as it would take for a bird’s wing feathers to wear down a mountain.  But if we align our lives with Great Mother and Father’s Grace- transformation into loving kindness, compassion, and peaceful joy may be only a surrender away.  Be willing to contribute without receiving thanks

True humility is to recognize when we are wrong, apologize, and make atonement, if necessary.    The battle of light and dark goes on inside us every day.  If we are not practicing love, joy, and peace then we are causing pain and suffering- even if only to ourselves.

Practice loving without return, happiness without a cause, and peace when it seems stupid.   Do this if others notice or not, if we receive praise or not- Practice even in difficult circumstances.  Our purpose isn’t to save the world but to be good spirit centered people contributing to the world.

To live Spirit’s life we must take sanctuary in beautiful places.  We must take refuge when hopelessness and helplessness overwhelms us.  Great Mother and Great Father are waiting to hold us, comfort us, and send us back to the world with renewed determination and hope.  The Spirit-centered life is hard, but not impossible- when we live it one thought, one, action, one word, and one day at a time.

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