Equanimity Does Not Mean Equality

Equanimity is not about being equal. It is about remaining calm in the midst of difficulty. Life is not fair. It’s not equal everywhere or all of the time. There is always going to be more of a reward for one individual while others just as worthy remain unnoticed and unappreciated. parental-Control Often in life we strive to be safe, comfortable, and have a plan for the future.  So what  really belongs to you?  What do you have power over?

Not your body. It’s going to do what it’s going to do and eventually it will grow old, get sick, and die.  We surround ourselves with possessions but they could all disappear one day or vanish in a moment  from war, weather, or an enemy’s malice. People around the world often discover this to their great horror and fear. Refugees, even those with the highest education, come to our country and are relegated to low-skilled, low-paid positions. They have lost all they built and counted upon. It happens every day all around the world.

What cannot be taken away, lost, or stolen is our self-respect, courage, determination, kindness, or compassion.  In other words who you truly are inside and how you choose to perceive the world around you.  This is equanimity.

Equanimity begins with the age old rule from many lands-  GoldenRuledecide to give away to others only that which you wish to receive yourself from others.
For thousands of years this phrase has endured yet people have ignored it in favor of returning in kind, or making a peremptory strike from fear that someone has evil intention. Is someone angry with you? It is common to say- “I think I’ll return the favor.”
Did someone gossip about you? It is common to say- “What a bitch/bastard, how dare they speak of me in that fashion…just you wait!”  When we return tit for tat we are holding another as a prisoner in our mind and we are in that prison with them!

Life is likely to surprise you- it is never safe, comfortable, and secure.refugees But you can remain in equanimity by establishing and maintaining an attitude of compassion. If you respect others, you are respecting yourself. This is compassion.  If you betray and hate others you are hating and betraying yourself.  This is the normal world-mind response.

Are you preventing yourself from moving into a celebration of the moment?  Usually people’s lives stop after the bad moments. When life stops so does growth in love, joy, and the possibility for transformation.  Many say, “I am going to feel this way for the rest of my life”?  Some will withdraw and become unavailable because something bad happened at one time. That is a death sentence.

With equanimity it is possible to continue to have a cheerful life, a meaningful life, even though bad things still happen. But there is no reason to not be loving and kind despite challenges and pain.  Whatever happened- That was then. This is now.
Right now there is an infinite possibility of experiences.

Remember, when things go wrong, when mistakes happen, and loss befalls you- forgiveness is the key to wholeness and peace. Remember that we are on a journey to become progressively less stupid. So do not make forgiveness or atonement a punishment or attempt to teach yourself a lesson.  Forgiveness is the restoration of love, joy, and harmony.

If someone has made us angry, then we could pray for them.  If we return anger and pain then we become just like the ones we despise. forgive1Create acts of love instead- and not necessarily for the one who has offended you- but focus, intentional acts of loving kindness restores you to wholeness. There are unending possibilities for kindness. Compassion should compel us into action. We have feelings so we can act upon them.  When those feelings are likely to create pain and suffering for ourselves or others- we can transform the contemplated action into a compassionate action instead.

Is life perfect? No. It is temporary, changing, and above all fleeting.  So-stop trying to be perfect and just do the best you can. There are lots of opportunities to be awaken in compassionate  service.- find one of them.  Compassion is not about what “I-Will-Not-Do”…” but rather it calls for us to decide  “What-I-Will-Do.”  Equanimity is our opportunity to relax into life instead of stressing out about life.

A Blessed Life

If we look at the world around us we see many souls who are without spiritual guidance, who long for a true relationship with Great Spirit- for someone to see them, hear them, and believe in them.  suffering2Do you know twenty people, or more, who are suffering?  Do you know people who have no hope that their suffering will end?  This is a sad but very experience common in the world now.

Spend a little time becoming aware of what you have in your life and in your heart.  Focus on your relationship to Great Spirit Mother and Father seeing the many ways you have been blessed with healing and hope.  Who would you be if you had never had the experiences of love, sharing, healing, and goodness that abound in your life?  When we become aware of what we have in our heart, in our family, in our life we desire to serve Great Mother & Great Father seeking an ending to all this suffering.  gratitudeWhen we find our gratitude we try to help others.  Many times we won’t be successful, but we can try anyway!

Wherever we go let us know that the Metta (loving kindness) is possible, that others can have these things, even as we have these things.  It’s easy to join the world- to be afraid, needy, and filled with the desire for many things.  But when we have love inside of us we understand what real joy is.  When we relax and bring our mind and heart to a place of peace we become free.  We can just sit and feel what we feel and then return our mind to the breath- letting go of all those other troublesome things.  If we align our lives in this way we begin to be happy and our inner demons are diminished.

So how do we reach through the noise of illusion and distraction to touch other’s hearts?  sharing-love-handsWe look into their eyes and speak to them.  We listen and really be present.  We discover what makes them a unique expression of Spirit grace. We offer this as a sanctuary.  We allow our blessed life to touch another’s life with blessings also.

The Metta

May all beings have good air to breathe.
May all beings have fresh, clean water to drink.
May all beings have food and a home.
May all beings share love with someone.
May all beings know their true purpose,
Be well and happy,
And free from suffering.
Today I shall do what I can to make this so.

Spirit Centered

We are never powerless!

It is very easy to feel, and even become powerless, or victimized in our thoughts or in our lives.   We are surrounded with stories of abuse, pain, and even hatred.  Some of these experiences may come into our lives personally or happen to people we know and love.  In times of great stress we can empower ourselves by allowing our feelings to be validated, and then expressing our pain in a non-harm way.  We can take back our love, joy, peace, laughter, freedom, and self-worth.  These truths belong to us and can only be taken from us if we give the power over these energies to another believing we can only experience them with permission from the other.

The reason we keep forgetting our Divine Inheritance of love, joy, peace, abundant life, and light is due to our continued focus on external events.  We keep expecting circumstances, situations, and relationships to mirror back to us Great Spirit Truth.  What they tend to mirror back to us is- frustration, challenge, depression, and anger.

Only when we focus on living Spirit Truth, and recognizing the possibilities of love, joy, peace, laughter, wholeness, and self-worth inside  can we understand that our external experiences are usually petty, finite, and impermanent.

Anything we decide to believe becomes our truth, so where is reality and where is truth?  Opinions can be argued, our truth can be argued or defended…but Spirit Truth needs no defense.

You were born to leave the world a better place than it was when you arrived.  Find your heart dream and hold it, cherish it, love it, nurture it in laughter.  Express it with enthusiastic passion and the darkness of selfishness, greed, and powerlessness will be defeated forever.

If you discover you have given away your power, remember to take it back again. It is yours after all…so why not center your life in Spirit Truth.

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May I arise today through a mighty strength.
Spirit’s power shall guide me.
Great Mother’s heart will uphold me.
Great Father’s eyes will watch over me.
Great Mother’s ears will hear me.
And their words shall rule my speech.
Great Father’s hand will guard me.
Spirit’s way lies be fore me.
Great Mother’s love will shelter me.
Great Father’s joy will surround me.

I will live at Your service-
And in Your Truths of Love, Joy, and Peace.
I shall come and go,
Speak and remain silent,
Do and refrain from doing,
All as you direct me.
Spirit’s Truth is my Truth
I need no other truth!